has become a password among women. More than once, when it’s come up while socializing at a dinner out or a gathering, another woman has reacted to it with a fierce nod, a slight lean-in, a lowered voice.

In the last case, there was even the Deustche blick — a furtive glance to the side. Invoking that name in the “wrong” way just might lose you friends.

by Sigrid Nunez.

I did not throw it hard across the room because A: It’s a library book and B: I was in Peet’s.

But I wanted to.

More later.